You're Never Too Old For Soft Play (Or Anything Else!)

In a matter of days, I will be turning 20. Not only that, but I get to eat as much Colin the Caterpillar cake as humanely possible (yes, 20 year olds are still allowed to love this particular cake thank you very much) and can get away with anything because I am the birthday girl (my all time favourite excuse). It is the only day where my mum can actually get away with embarrasing me, and also the day (but not the only day) where my boyfriend makes horrible jokes about wrinkles that don't exist.

However, the upcoming celebration of my birth has also got me thinking about the role that age plays in our lives and my confusion around why we let it bother us so much.

It is very common for me to hear men and women alike talk about how they are 'too old' to do particular things. The most confusing to me are things like being 'too old' to do a particular job, to take up a particular new hobby, or just simply to do something different with their lives. In my opinion, this is never the case.

Frankly, I believe that age is just a number, to use that awfully cringey saying that some may find as a very clever response to a rejection on Tinder by someone more than 5 years older than them (sorry to disappoint, it's really not.) It's a mental conditioning by society that makes us believe that just because we have birthdays and may not be as young as we used to be, we can't do the things that we actually may enjoy or may add value to our lives. (I mean, I'm 19 years old but if you told me I was going to soft play, I would have no shame in jumping into the nearest ball pit and racing down slides in browns sacks, most likely with an even bigger grin on my face than the kids who soft play is actually aimed at.)

Age is just an excuse. Age is a hurdle that people put in front of themselves because they are afraid that society will judge them and not accept them for doing something that isn't typical of somebody who has reached a particular level of maturity. The way I see it, men and women tell themselves, and others, that they are 'too old' to do certain activites as a way of protecting their image and preventing themselves from doing something that others may not approve of or may look upon as 'not the done thing'.

My problem with that is this: it's not really up to the norms of society to tell us what we can and can't do and to influence the decisions we make. We have free will and the freedom to do what we choose, so why let what others think stand in the way of that? Why let something as irrelevant as age stop something potentially great from coming out of something 'abnormal' or unexpected?

The way I see it, and correct me if I'm wrong, we are only as old as we feel and we are only limited to that which is physically not possible (for example, me being able to do more than one press up without looking like a complete weakling). The rest is totally achievable, no matter how many wrinkles we get or how many cards we recieve with the age on it to remind us of how old we've become. (Friends, no one enjoys this! 'Happy Birthday will suffice!!') Age is most definitely just a number so please, just do what makes you happy and if it goes wrong or people don't like it, at least you're being true to yourself. Life is too sodding short.

Life, And Knowing What To Do With It

Hello!

Recently I've realised that I've reached a sticky point in my life: knowing what I want to do with it.

Since a very young age, I've always come up with very serious ideas of what I wanted to do. At 7, it was a children's novelist, at 12, it was a journalist, and at 17, it was a translator. At 18, I finished A levels and all of a sudden I had no idea. Knowing that I didn't want to go to university from the beginning of AS, the only option was to find an apprenticeship. But what in? This, I had no clue either. I went to job fairs, I trawled through vacancies on the internet, I applied for highly competitive apprenticeship programmes and was unsuccessful. What was there left to do? Terrified that I would be leaving college imminently with nothing yet secured, I got a job as an apprentice business administrator.

Now, for my first experience of the 'world of work', this was a good step. I earn a good wage and I've learnt so many things and picked up experience that I never imagined I would. I'm lucky to have fallen into a job with a company that values me as a person and gives me some autonomy over how I go about my work. But is it what I want to do forever? Definitely not. Then again, what do I want to do? I realise that I am only 19 and have a lifetime of choices to make concerning my career, but I'm scared. I've always been very passionate about having goals and working towards them, so the idea that I now don't know what these goals are is jarring.

Adults who have already established themselves in the working world make it look so easy. I see working professionals walking around London in their smart suits, tapping away with purpose on their company laptops and I find it hard to imagine myself in the same position. I wonder if that will ever be me, and most importantly, how the hell do I get there? How do adults do it? I'd pay anyone good money to tell me that secret. I applaud those who have it figured out and have found a career path they love.

I suppose what I'm really yearning for is to feel fulfilled. I'm happy with my life and all of the things I've achieved so far, but I want that moment where somebody asks me what I do for a living and my face lights up and I reply, 'I work as (whatever future me works as when this question is next asked) and I love my job!'. Isn't that what everybody wants? It's a craving that I'm going to make my goal until I finally make it a reality.

I'm learning that the best things in life are the things you enjoy the most and are the things that give you a sense of place and joy in a world that can be dull and daunting. I'm aware that we can't always love everything we do and work won't always be fun, sunshine and rainbows, but that's not what I'm after. I'm after success and passion for I do, whatever that may be. We all have completely different definitions of what success and happiness look like and I'm telling you now - that is okay. We are allowed to be different (how boring would it be if we were all the same??). It doesn't matter if you take a different route to achieve your career, take a few tumbles along the way, at some point have no idea what you're to do with your life, have a breakdown and change the path. It does not mean that you're doing it wrong. You're doing you. You're allowed to make mistakes and you are allowed to not know where the next road will take you.

So, I may not know where I'll be in 5 years time, but I do know that I am going to do whatever it takes to find my definition of career happiness and success, my way.

Have a great weekend,

Stacey x